Previously – ‘We need to open the window and let fresh air before we light our best-scented candles. Once we have done that, gratitude will enter our lives in a more natural flow, it will spark more vividly from our heart and it will certainly stop being just another practice for self-care, recovery or understanding. Only then it will be a conscious, self-aware practice that will elevate our spirit and heart.‘
If you were to think and answer honestly – when was the last time you said no to yourself? No to time – time to be with yourself, time to do something you enjoy or just time to be true to yourself (not the usual denying techniques that take your mind away and distract you)? To acknowledge what bothers you, what gathered there and piled up into a lot of rubbish that needs to be thrown away?
It will take time, work, cries and staying up late to get it over with and throughout the process you will change a lot. But what is most important is that you will get yourself back. With instruments such as meditation, writing or any kind of self-reflection in fact – even a walk in the park will do – you will get yourself back slowly, and you will learn to face what is uncomfortable, to see the bad and the ugly in the eye and deal with it. Day by day, you will change and not that you will become a completely another person – but you will learn to see when this other side of you takes over again – and will be able to handle it better, smoother this time.
This self-reflection will bring awareness and eventually, responsibility. Responsibility to deal with your own – to accept that maybe you have been misled in the past, maybe there were situations, people, habits that changed the course of your life or just distracted you from your course (all with a reason of course). But today, well, today you have the power. You took your power back because, with awareness, you learned to be more gentle with yourself. You learned to see how utterly humane you are – how weak, pitiful and miserable you are at times – just so you know, we all are. But that makes us beautiful. It will be easier to forgive yourself and to have more compassion next time you will make that smart remark on someone. We learn that every day. How we are all on. What you should be looking at is to progress, not to perfect.
Acceptance, self-forgiveness and responsibility are the major steps that will guide you towards empowerment. You don’t have to search for empowerment in others. Of course, role models and guides are always there for you as inspiration, with advice and stories that work for them! You should just see what works for you!
In the long run, you need to be your own coach. You need to set your standards high and compare with who you were yesterday. Empowerment is a job that requires your undivided attention on a day to day basis, with how you create your life, what your thoughts are and of course, your rituals. All these done by you only, my dear one.
(To be continued 🙂